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Michigan Infidelity a Major Crime

January 16, 2007/in Infidelity Information, Spousal Surveillance, Uncategorized /by site admin

January 15, 2007

BY BRIAN DICKERSON

FREE PRESS COLUMNIST

In a ruling sure to make philandering spouses squirm, Michigan’s second-highest court says that anyone involved in an extramarital fling can be prosecuted for first-degree criminal sexual conduct, a felony punishable by up to life in prison.

“We cannot help but question whether the Legislature actually intended the result we reach here today,” Judge William Murphy wrote in November for a unanimous Court of Appeals panel, “but we are curtailed by the language of the statute from reaching any other conclusion.”

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“Technically,” he added, “any time a person engages in sexual penetration in an adulterous relationship, he or she is guilty of CSC I,” the most serious sexual assault charge in Michigan’s criminal code.

No one expects prosecutors to declare open season on cheating spouses. The ruling is especially awkward for Attorney General Mike Cox, whose office triggered it by successfully appealing a lower court’s decision to drop CSC charges against a Charlevoix defendant. In November 2005, Cox confessed to an adulterous relationship.

Murphy’s opinion received little notice when it was handed down. But it has since elicited reactions ranging from disbelief to mischievous giggling in Michigan’s gossipy legal community.

The ruling grows out of a case in which a Charlevoix man accused of trading Oxycontin pills for the sexual favors of a cocktail waitress was charged under an obscure provision of Michigan’s criminal law. The provision decrees that a person is guilty of first-degree criminal sexual conduct whenever “sexual penetration occurs under circumstances involving the commission of any other felony.”

Charlevoix Circuit Judge Richard Pajtas sentenced Lloyd Waltonen to up to four years in prison after he pleaded guilty to two felony counts of delivering a controlled substance. But Pajtas threw out the sexual assault charge against Waltonen, citing the cocktail waitress’ testimony that she had willingly consented to the sex-for-drugs arrangement.

Charlevoix prosecuting attorney John Jarema said he decided to appeal after police discovered evidence that Waltonen may have struck drugs-for-sex deals with several other women.

Cox’s office, which handled the appeal on the prosecutor’s behalf, insisted that the waitress’ consent was irrelevant. All that mattered, the attorney general argued in a brief demanding that the charge be reinstated, was that the pair had sex “under circumstances involving the commission of another felony” — the delivery of the Oxycontin pills.

The Attorney General’s Office got a whole lot more than it bargained for. The Court of Appeals agreed that the prosecutor in Waltonen’s case needed only to prove that the Oxycontin delivery and the consensual sex were related. But Murphy and his colleagues went further, ruling that a first-degree CSC charge could be justified when consensual sex occurred in conjunction with any felony, not just a drug sale.

The judges said they recognized their ruling could have sweeping consequences, “considering the voluminous number of felonious acts that can be found in the penal code.” Among the many crimes Michigan still recognizes as felonies, they noted pointedly, is adultery — although the Prosecuting Attorneys Association of Michigan notes that no one has been convicted of that offense since 1971.

Some judges and lawyers suggested that the Court of Appeals’ reference to prosecuting adulterers was a sly slap at Cox, noting that it was his office that pressed for the expansive definition of criminal sexual conduct the appellate judges so reluctantly embraced in their Nov. 7 ruling.

Murphy didn’t return my calls Friday. But Chief Court of Appeals Judge William Whitbeck, who signed the opinion along with Murphy and Judge Michael Smolenski, said that Cox’s confessed adultery never came up during their discussions of the case.

“I never thought of it, and I’m confident that it was not something Judge Murphy or Judge Smolenski had in mind,” Whitbeck told me Friday. But he chuckled uncomfortably when I asked if the hypothetical described in Murphy’s opinion couldn’t be cited as justification for bringing first-degree criminal sexual conduct charges against the attorney general.

“Well, yeah,” he said.

Cox’s spokesman, Rusty Hills, bristled at the suggestion that Cox or anyone else in his circumstances could face prosecution.

“To even ask about this borders on the nutty,” Hills told me in a phone interview Saturday. “Nobody connects the attorney general with this — N-O-B-O-D-Y — and anybody who thinks otherwise is hallucinogenic.”

Hills said Sunday that Cox did not want to comment.

The Court of Appeals opinion could also be interpreted as a tweak to the state Supreme Court, which has decreed that judges must enforce statutory language adopted by the Legislature literally, whatever the consequences.

In many other states, judges may reject a literal interpretation of the law if they believe it would lead to an absurd result. But Michigan’s Supreme Court majority has held that it is for the Legislature, not the courts, to decide when the absurdity threshold has been breached.

Whitbeck noted that Murphy’s opinion questions whether state lawmakers really meant to authorize the prosecution of adulterers for consensual relationships.

“We encourage the Legislature to take a second look at the statutory language if they are troubled by our ruling,” he wrote.

Hills declined to say whether the Attorney General’s Office would press for legislative amendments to make it clear that only violent felonies involving an unwilling victim could trigger a first-degree CSC charge.

“This is so bizarre that it doesn’t even merit a response,” he said.

Meanwhile, Waltonen has asked the state Supreme Court for leave to appeal the Court of Appeals ruling. He still hasn’t been tried on the criminal sexual conduct charge. His attorney said a CSC conviction could add dozens of years to Waltonen’s current prison sentence.

Justices will decide later this year whether to review the Court of Appeals’ decision to reinstate the CSC charge.

The appeals court decision is available at http://courtofappeals.mijud.net/resources/opinions.htm. Search for Docket No. 270229.

Contact BRIAN DICKERSON at 248-351-3697 or bdickerson@freepress.com.

Woman Sues Reality TV Show For Fraud, Assault

January 11, 2007/in General Investigations, Infidelity Information, Spousal Surveillance, Uncategorized /by site admin

(CBS) LOS ANGELES A young woman who alleges she was duped into playing a cheating spouse in a Spanish-language reality television show sued the director and the station that aired the show.

Elizabeth I. Anderson filed her lawsuit Tuesday in Los Angeles Superior Court. Among the defendants are Hearst-Argyle Television Inc., the owners of Spanish-language KCRA, and Alejandra Duque, producer/director of the series “Secretos.”

Anderson alleges fraud, misrepresentation, negligent supervision, intentional infliction of emotional distress, defamation and assault and battery.

She is asking for unspecified general, medical and punitive damages.

“Secretos” is about a team of private investigators led by J.C. Uribe who track down unfaithful spouses and friends to uncover their secrets. Uribe also is named as a defendant.

Anderson’s suit alleges the series implies that the cast members are real people who cheat on their spouses. In reality, the show is scripted, and the characters are actors who have no idea they will be on “Secretos” and portrayed as they are, the lawsuit stated.

The lawsuit was filed in Los Angeles because scenes involving Anderson were filmed in the city, including a “confrontation” on Melrose Avenue in which Anderson was assaulted and suffered a concussion, according to the lawsuit.

Officials with Hearst-Argyle were unavailable for immediate comment.

According to the lawsuit, Anderson, who is fluent in Spanish, was hired for an acting assignment by the defendants in January 2005 when she was 20 and a recent graduate of New York University. She was not told she was going to appear in an episode of “Secretos,” the lawsuit stated.

The first scenes were shot at the home of a friend of Duque, where Anderson and a male actor were told they were going to act out an implied sex scene in which she would remove the man’s shirt, the lawsuit stated.

But when the cameras started rolling, Duque and the cameraman started telling Anderson to take off her clothes, the lawsuit stated.

Anderson objected and started to walk off the set, but Duque apologized and persuaded her to stay, the lawsuit stated.

A rehearsal for the next few scenes occurred on Melrose Avenue, the lawsuit stated. There, Anderson and the same male actor were met by three “Secretos” investigators, according to the lawsuit.

Another male actor who was playing Anderson’s jealous husband then attacked the man she was walking with, the lawsuit stated. Anderson was hit in the face and head and fell unconscious to the ground, according to the lawsuit.

The “Secretos” crew members told Anderson to stop crying and gave her $60 to see a doctor, the lawsuit stated.

Anderson was so traumatized she quit acting and moved away from Los Angeles, the lawsuit stated.

Spotting a Cheater

January 2, 2007/in Infidelity Information, Spousal Surveillance, Uncategorized /by site admin

Spotting a Cheater Long ago, in the land of happiness and bliss you were both so in love that you both seemed inseparable. All seemed well in paradise, but after a few years, you have come to realise that things are not like they used to be.

You begin to argue a lot, sometimes your partner does not come home or when he/she does, they go back out and only to return in the wee hours of the morning. Maybe you need to sit and analyse the situation carefully. It may just be that your partner is changing or is under a great level of stress, or maybe he/she is just plain cheating. But how are you to tell for sure? Before any confrontations or jumping to any conclusions, get to the bottom of the problem. Ask yourself the following questions:

1. Does he/she call you less often?

2. Does he/she make excuses to not see you when you used to be inseparable?

3. Is he/she not where you are told he/she will be?

4. When you call, is he/she not at home?

5. Has he/she become very distant or more affectionate than normal on the rare occasions that you are together?

6. Have other people noticed the strange behaviour?

7. Have other people seen him/her with somebody else?

8. Does he/she seem distracted when he/she is with you?

How to prevent cheating

If you answered ‘yes’ to four or more of the above questions, there is a good chance that your he/she may be cheating. Dr. Sidney McGill, sex therapist, give some tips on how to prevent cheating.

1. Be a helper and encourager: Understand that you might have strengths that your spouse might not have. Complement your spouse wherever he/she has a deficiency. Rather than judging, encourage he/she to become a better person.

2. Keep romance alive: It is often implied that it is the male’s duty to act romantic or initiate intimacy. However, women need to understand it is a joint responsibility.

3. You need to be creative, adventurous and have sex regularly to keep the bond alive.

4. Be forgiving: Try not to keep a list of faults or mistakes.

5. Show unconditional respect: Despite what he/she has done, be respectful.

6. Be a good listener: Participate in intimate discussion with your spouse and be compassionate to each other’s feeling.

7. Try to change unhealthy attitudes: Instead of being ungrateful, be thankful. Focus on the good things rather than the bad.

8. Instead of being controlling, be flexible: Let people make and learn from their own mistakes.

9. Let the difficulties you face in the relationship act as character builders.

10. Accept and work with each other’s differences – don’t expect him/her to be like you.

How to deal with it

If it so happens that your spouse is cheating on you, there are some tips from Dr. McGill on how to deal with such a situation.

1. Recognise and identify what you are going through, for example, feeling hurt, disappointment or anger. Try to stabilise yourself, never confront your spouse in the heat of the moment because that will only compound the situation.

2. Consider why he/she cheated and get a third person to intervene with possible questions that need to be answered.

3. If you discover that he/she has a lifelong cheating problem, then it can only make the situation more difficult. But if it is a case where the offender is willing to change, then you need to seek professional assistance.

4. Try not to tell the whole world because it will only increase your sense of embarrassment. First, speak with a pastor or therapist before seeking therapy for both parties.

5. Take necessary precautions: Get tested for HIV/AIDS and other sexually-transmitted diseases.

6. After the grieving process, take steps towards healing and regain control of your life.

If you or anyone you know is a victim of cheating, sex addiction or any other sexual related condition you can consult Dr. McGill at 972-1805 or e-mail: fccjam@yahoo.com.

In Japan Cell phones help wives’ doubts ring true about cheating husbands

December 19, 2006/in General Investigations, Infidelity Information, Spousal Surveillance, Uncategorized /by site admin

Mobile phones are the biggest reason behind cheating Japanese husbands getting caught, according to a Shukan Post (12/22) survey on salaryman infidelity.

The top-selling men’s weekly probed 300 married salarymen, finding out that 74 percent had cheated on their wives at least once and 30.2 percent are still playing around.

“I’ve found out that about 80 percent of married men have played around at least once, so the Post findings don’t come as much of a shock at all. It just backs my findings,” Sanae Kameyama, writer of “Furin no Koi de Kurushimu Otokotachi (Men Burdened With Immoral Love),” tells Shukan Post.

Of the cheating salarymen, 35.8 percent had seen their extramarital affairs exposed, with mobile phones being the reason in 22.5 percent of cases. Other common methods of capture included smelling of perfume or being covered in cosmetics, and actually being caught red-handed.

“In my research, too, mobile phones were overwhelmingly the main reason men’s affairs have been discovered. It’s common sense to wipe out your call history and records of who you’ve called, but plenty of people are nabbed when their phones are checked,” Kameyama says. “Women know that the easiest way to check on their husbands is to take a look at their mobile phone records.”

That’s exactly how a 32-year-old Osaka housewife revealed her husband’s infidelity.

“Over the past couple of months, he started acting strangely. He took his phone with him wherever he went, even if it was only to pick up a packet of smokes. He also hid it under his clothes when he took them off to have a bath. He’d never behaved anything like this in the past,” the woman tells Shukan Post. “He wouldn’t check his phone e-mail when we were sitting around watching TV and the final straw for me came when he started hiding his phone under his pillow, saying he wanted to use it as an alarm clock to wake him in the mornings. I followed him one day and it didn’t take long before I spotted him walking along with his arm linked to a young hussy.”

Another woman used a slightly slyer means to catch out her love rat hubby.

“One night I got my husband’s mobile phone and noticed that late on Friday night he’d received 10 different phone calls from a ‘Taro Yamada (roughly the Japanese equivalent of “John Brown”).’ I thought it was a bit weird, so I called the number and the voice on the other end of the phone was clearly a young woman,” the 38-year-old housewife says.

Marriage guidance counselor Hiromi Ikeuchi says that when guys fall for someone other than their wife, they often give off plenty of signs.

“For instance, a man might talk about a new woman come to work in his office and what a nice woman she is. But if he actually starts having an affair with that woman, he’ll completely stop talking about her in the home,” she says. “Often guys give away their infidelity without ever realizing it.”

Catching love rats isn’t entirely a one-way street, though guys have a long way to go before they catch up with their spouses, as only a mere 9 percent of surveyed salarymen said they had caught their wife playing around.

“My guess is that about 80 percent of women wouldn’t mind having a fling and around 30 percent have probably gone through with their wish. I know of one woman who used to cart her 3-month-old baby around to the love hotels where she had her trysts with a secret lover,” Ikeuchi tells Shukan Post. “Starting from April next year, laws will be changed to allow career housewives to claim part of their husband’s pension payments in the event of a split. Many foresee a lot of divorcing going on among the middle-aged and elderly after that. I think that many women will be concealing their own infidelity while trying to find proof of their husbands’ cheating. You’ve got to be careful, you don’t know who you’re really married to.” (By Ryann Connell)

December 18, 2006

Attend Your Spouse’s Office Party

December 18, 2006/in Infidelity Information, Spousal Surveillance, Uncategorized /by site admin

You know the drill for your spouse’s holiday office party. There will be stale snacks, tipsy co-workers and that guy with the dumb jokes who always corners you. Wouldn’t it be better for everyone if you just stayed home and let your partner have some fun?

In a word — no. That’s the advice of relationship counselors.

“Tell all the spouses! Go to the party!” says Diane Sollee, a marriage therapist who founded SmartMarriages.com.

“The Christmas party is the workplace affair on steroids,” warns Peggy Vaughan, author of “The Monogamy Myth” and a former corporate consultant who founded DearPeggy.com. “It is playing with dynamite is what it is.”

Really? Just the old office gang, getting together for a few adult beverages and a laugh? What could possibly go wrong?

Well, there’s the obvious stuff. A Canon Copiers survey last year of its technicians in the United Kingdom found that 32 percent of service calls over the holidays were “to repair copier glass that had been sat on” or “to fix paper jams that revealed evidence of embarrassing images.”

Ah yes, copier high jinks, a staple of holiday parties. But that’s not where the unfortunate behavior ends. An independent survey of 1,000 office workers in the United Kingdom last year, cited by Canon, found that one-third of respondents have “kissed or gone home with a colleague.” Now we’re getting into problems that could last long after the holiday festivities are over.

University of California psychology Professor Dacher Keltner suggests you take a look at the numbers. His best estimate from the research he’s seen indicates that “35 to 60 percent of couples will experience infidelity.” A conservative estimate would be the University of Chicago’s “American Sexual Behavior” survey of married men and women, which found that 36 percent (22 percent of them men and 14 percent women) would have extramarital affairs.

And like everyone else who studies relationships, Keltner says the Christmas party is a setup for problems.

“You’ve got a collective gathering,” he says, “there’s the eggnog, you’re wearing a Santa hat …”

OK, but aren’t we getting a little paranoid here? After all, it is just a once-a-year party? Not really, says Sollee. She likes to cite the late Shirley Glass, a Baltimore psychologist who was one of the nation’s foremost experts on infidelity.

Glass noted the rise in the number of women in the workplace and the opportunity for interaction. She jokingly suggested that office buildings post a sign out front reading: “Danger, men and women working together here.”

That’s why Sollee suggests that spouses show up at the office regularly, from the holiday party to the company picnic.

“It’s just like war,” she says. “It is harder to shoot people you know. It is like going in and marking your territory.”

And if you suspect your spouse is having an affair, you should definitely go to the Christmas party, says author Ruth Houston. She wrote “Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs.”

Seriously? 829 signs?

“Well, they are divided into 21 categories,” Houston says.

Oh, good. Because otherwise it was starting to sound a little obsessive.

Houston is a holiday party militant. If you suspect your spouse, she says, you can’t afford not to attend.

“If anything is going on, it will be evident,” says Houston. “Someone may be overly friendly, excessively curious, or even hostile.”

Houston also shared her special office party “hot tip” — go to the restroom as often as possible.

“Make a couple of trips,” Houston says. “You never know what you might hear. Go into a stall and hang out. Somebody might say something they aren’t supposed to say, like, ‘Did you see her face when his wife walked in?’ ”

So, have we completely taken the fun out of the holiday party? With 829 telltale signs to worry about, some spouses may be afraid to reach for a chicken wing for fear of setting off an alarm.

With that in mind, Cal’s Keltner offers a contrarian view by referencing the work of psychologist Adam Phillips, who wrote “On Flirtation,” a series of essays on why happily married people flirt.

Keltner says Phillips’ premise is that, “Romantic bonds are just fundamentally ambiguous, so we are constantly flirting. The idea is that we are playfully, rather than seriously, doing something that is universal and that by acknowledging that, it may in fact be beneficial to flirt.”

So how would that apply to the holiday office bash?

“By that theory,” he says, “the Christmas party is actually the glue that holds marriages together.”

So there’s your talking point. All you have to do is convince your spouse. And I’d like to wish you the best of luck.

Endless Array of Partners Wait on Net

December 9, 2006/in Infidelity Information, Spousal Surveillance, Uncategorized /by site admin

By CHRIS KITCHING

Alone in his computer room on a Saturday night, Tony clicked on sports website after sports website, scrolling through hockey summaries and updating his fantasy football team.

Splattered on every page were colourful ads featuring scantily clad women, sports magazine offers, and various unaffiliated websites. One of them caught his eye.

With his wife watching TV in the den and their two kids snug in bed, Tony nervously created a profile and searched the member database of an international online dating service.

He didn’t really understand why he was doing it, or what he was looking for, but he knew it had something to do with a feeling something in his relationship was absent.

“My wife and I were happy in an emotional sense, and we still are, but for awhile I felt like something was lacking and that I was bored sexually,” said Tony, which is not the 33-year-old man’s real name. “I regret that night. It changed my life.”

Tony deleted his profile within a week and vowed to remain faithful to his wife of several years. They met in university and were crazy about each other.

They got married after a couple of years of dating. Soon, they had two kids, full-time careers, and extra-curricular activities that kept them busy and apart.

Life had basically become a routine and their sex life was on the decline. They barely had time or the energy for each other, Tony said.

“It seems like such a weak reason to seek out someone else but at the time it was a major factor in my life,” he said. “It affected everything I did and everything about me. My attitude, all of that stuff.”

A few months passed. One night, as Tony and his wife watched a syndicated sitcom, he saw an ad for the Ashley Madison Agency.

The Toronto-based Internet dating service caters to those looking to stray from their better halves, or are the least bit curious about what else is out there.

Within a day, Tony had created a public profile and private photo album, and used his credit card to buy more than $100 in credits that would allow him to interact with other members.

Even though he hadn’t made contact yet with anyone, Tony said he was already having an affair because he was doing something “wrong” behind his wife’s back.

At 1.45 million members (85% of them men), Ashley Madison is the largest website of its kind. Of those, 10,700 are in Manitoba. The website’s slogan is “When monogamy becomes monotony.”

Its member count is proof the Internet is now the No. 1 place for cheaters to hook up. Emotional affairs are common. Some people take them out of cyberspace and into the real world.

Tony did.

He met an older woman who shared his feelings. They chatted and flirted over the Net during the day when Tony was at his office and the woman was at home and her husband at work.

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“I was looking for attention and sex. The Internet made it seem so easy to get,” he said.

Knowing his wife and kids would be out of town for the weekend, Tony took a major leap — he asked his virtual mistress if she’d meet him at a St. Vital hotel.

She lied to her husband, telling him she was going out for drinks with friends, Tony said.

Tony’s wife doesn’t know he had a one-night stand.

“I couldn’t tell her. Am I a coward? Maybe,” Tony said. “I know what I did was wrong. I’ll never do it again, but I shouldn’t have done it in the first place.”

The Internet is popular grounds for finding a fellow cheating heart because it’s convenient and a person can maintain a level of anonymity, said Darren Morgenstern, operations director and founder of the Ashley Madison Agency.

People who are going to stray are going to find a way to do it, he said.

“To the people who need us, we provide a safe, reliable forum for them to come out and explore the full gamut of their feelings,” Morgenstern said. “They can decide if the grass is truly greener on the other side.”

The website has its critics.

“You’re always going to have a group of people who don’t agree with your business model and we don’t pretend to be for everybody,” Morgenstern said.

Infidelity author Ruth Houston said 30% of online affairs move out of the computer room and become sexual affairs in the bedroom. Or backseat of a car. Or hotel room. You get the idea.

“The Internet makes it infinitely easier to find a person to cheat with,” Houston said.

Traditionally, a person would go to a public place to seek out a willing partner at the risk of being slapped in the face or caught, she said.

That willing partner is sometimes unaware of the person’s attachment.

“Now, all a person has to do is sit in front of a computer to have an endless array of available partners at the click of a mouse,” Houston said. “The (spouse) can be sitting in the same room, totally unaware of what the person is doing.”

A secret emotional relationship that doesn’t leave the confines of cyberspace is emotional infidelity, no matter what the defence, Houston said.

“Emotional infidelity is the precursor to sexual infidelity,” she said.

“If it goes on long enough and it’s feasible for the two people to meet eventually they will.”

Internet Infidelity Souring Real Relationships

October 31, 2006/in Infidelity Information, Spousal Surveillance, Uncategorized /by site admin

NEW DELHI: With more and more men and women having cyber affairs, Internet infidelity seems to have arrived in India.

The faithful are trying to catch their techno-savvy unfaithful partners red-handed in cyber space by keeping pace with technology.

Anoop (all names in the article are aliases) works from home on his PC and promptly logs off around 7 pm when it’s time for his wife to get back home. Anoop insists that the women he chats with are just “friends”.

Excessive use of Internet is also becoming a reason for break-up of marriages. Adil, 48, has posted fake profiles on almost all matrimonial sites. He interacts with prospective brides trying to pass off as a 30-something groom and often exchanges phone numbers.

It’s not just the husbands and boyfriends who are cheating — the wives and girlfriends are not far behind. Anita, 29, by her own admission is addicted to the ‘30-something-room’ on a popular Indian chat site. As rebuilding trust after an episode of Internet infidelity may not be easy, plenty of websites are offering tips to deal with it.

Texas Man gets Probation after Exposing Wife’s Infidelity on TV

October 27, 2006/in Infidelity Information, Spousal Surveillance, Uncategorized /by site admin

By Melody McDonald
McClatchy Newspapers

FORT WORTH, Texas – A Texas man who exposed his estranged wife’s alleged affair with a Fort Worth police captain on the reality TV show “Cheaters” has been sentenced to probation for violating a protective order.

Rafael Gutierrez Jr., 42, reached a plea bargain agreement on Tuesday and was sentenced to three years deferred adjudication probation for violating a protective order when he showed up at Maria Gutierrez’s work with the “Cheaters” crew on May 4, 2005.

Deferred adjudication means if Gutierrez successfully completes his probation, there will be no finding of guilt and a conviction will not appear on his record, although the arrest will remain.

Gutierrez also pleaded guilty to misdemeanor assault and was sentenced to 15 days in jail for assaulting his estranged wife on Feb. 22, 2005 in Grand Prairie, a Fort Worth suburb. As part of the plea bargain, a second assault that occurred two days earlier was dismissed.

The couple has since divorced.

Prosecutor JoAnn Pearce, who handled the plea with Sean Colston, declined to comment on Wednesday because criminal cases against the Cheaters crew are pending and scheduled to go to trial next month. Rafael Gutierrez’s defense attorney, Ernie Bates, was in court on Wednesday and could not be reached for comment.

According to court documents, after her husband assaulted her in February 2005, Maria Gutierrez moved out of the home, filed for divorce and got a protective order which, among other things, prohibited her husband from going to her place of work.

After she left, officials said Rafael Gutierrez hired a private investigator who filmed Maria Gutierrez and Fort Worth police Capt. Duane Paul engaged in sexual conduct in an unmarked city vehicle on three occasions.

On May 4, 2005, Rafael Gutierrez, with a “Cheaters” TV crew in tow, confronted his estranged wife about the alleged affair outside a Bally’s Fitness Center in Arlington, Texas, where she worked.

In the footage, Maria Gutierrez can be seen talking on a cell phone when she is surprised by Rafael Gutierrez and the TV crew. With her husband hovering over her and yelling at her in English and Spanish, Maria Gutierrez tried to go back into the fitness center but was blocked by the Cheaters security guards.

Maria Gutierrez, attempting to summon help on her phone, tried to re-enter Bally’s but was once again blocked by the security guard.

She later shouted “don’t hit me” after it appeared that her husband was attempting to grab her arm.

A co-worker eventually helped her get back inside.

Gutierrez was later arrested for violating the protective order. Not long after, four members of the “Cheaters” crew – who claimed they did not know the woman had a protective order against Gutierrez – also found themselves in legal trouble in connection with the incident.

A Tarrant County grand jury indicted Joey Greco, the host of “Cheaters,” and Hunter Carson, the episode’s director, on charges of assault with bodily injury, unlawful restraint and hindering apprehension. Walter Earl Woods, 36, and Thomas Daniel Gibbons, 19, security guards contracted by “Cheaters,” were indicted on charges of assault with bodily injury and unlawful restraint.

The men are scheduled to be tried together on Nov. 6.

Paul, the officer captured on the tape with Maria Gutierrez, was later demoted from captain to lieutenant.

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Sex gear stolen for killer lover

October 16, 2006/in Infidelity Information, Spousal Surveillance, Uncategorized /by site admin

By Viva Goldner, Court Reporter

October 16, 2006 12:00
Article from: The Daily Telegraph

A FEMALE probation officer – suspended without pay for having an affair with a convicted murderer – has admitted stealing kinky costumes while her paroled boyfriend distracted staff, a court has been told.
The Daily Telegraph can reveal for the first time the details of their illicit relationship that led mother-of-two Kerrie Anne Loughland, 32, to leave her family and move in with her criminal lover.

The unlikely affair is the latest debacle to rock the Parole Authority, after it waited almost two weeks to revoke child killer John Lewthwaite’s parole when he was arrested for obscene exposure.

In the latest scandal Loughland was suspended without pay while the Department of Corrective Services investigated her “alleged inappropriate relationship” with an inmate.

The Blaxland mother’s position as a probation and parole officer at Silverwater jail is now under review.

Documents tendered to court reveal Loughland was assigned to Sean McAuliffe’s case last February, four months before he was released from the Mid-North Coast Correctional Centre.

McAuliffe served 12 years jail after being found guilty of murder in 1992.

Police claim McAuliffe and Loughland were “good friends”.

On September 18, the pair went to Sydney’s Kins Cross and entered Risque Adult Shop on Darlinghurst Rd about 2pm.

Loughland grabbed a selection of novelty uniforms and latex costumes and headed to the changerooms, followed by her criminal beau.

He left the cubicle and continued to browse the store’s x-rated wares, Downing Centre Local Court was told.

Noticing some clothing had not been returned, shop assistant “Cecil” inspected McAuliffe’s bag and found one captain costume and one fireman costume, valued at $309.90 in total.

McAuliffe then fled, taking with him a “black dress and a devil’s costume” worth $199.90, the court heard.

Police arrived soon after and arrested Loughland, before later arresting McAuliffe. Both accused pleaded guilty to stealing the items and were each fined $600 at separate court hearings.