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Keeping a Journal About Suspected Affair

If you are one of many that have a hunch of a suspected affair, one of the best ways to help you determine if your partner is engaged in an affair is to keep a DAILY journal of their activities. If he or she left an hour early for work, did errands they typically never do (like stopped at the grocery store), bought new clothes, put on sexy underwear. Things like car mileage being 30 miles more than just work and back, a 40-minute trip to the store at 9:40 at night… just to get milk, stayed up on the computer after you went to sleep, and the list goes on. Do this for a week or two and try to be as impartial and unemotional as possible. By keeping a journal about suspected affair activity, you will get some real information to reflect on. Once you see this, it can really help you piece together if something is going on or not.

 

 

PsychologyToday reveals the facts on Infidelity

We found an excellent article on psychologytoday.com called “The New Sex Scorecard”, authored by Hara Estroff Marano. The article provides some excellent insight in to the differences between men and woman. The following is an excerpt from her article about changes in infidelity called “The Incredible Shrinking Double Standard” .

Nothing unites men and women better than sex. Yet nothing divides us more either. Males and females differ most in mating psychology because our minds are shaped by and for our reproductive mandates. That sets up men for sex on the side and a more casual attitude toward it.

Twenty-five percent of wives and 44 percent of husbands have had extramarital intercourse, reports Baltimore psychologist Shirley Glass, Ph.D. Traditionally for men, love is one thing and sex is…well, sex.

In what may be a shift of epic proportions, sexual infidelity is mutating before our very eyes. Increasingly, men as well as women are forming deep emotional attachments before they even slip into an extramarital bed together. It often happens as they work long hours together in the office.

“The sex differences in infidelity are disappearing,” says Glass, the doyenne of infidelity research. “In my original 1980 study, there was a high proportion of men who had intercourse with almost no emotional involvement at all–nonrelational sex. Today, more men are getting emotionally involved.”

One consequence of the growing parity in affairs is greater devastation of the betrayed spouse. The old-style strictly sexual affair never impacted men’s marital satisfaction. “You could be in a good marriage and still cheat,” reports Glass.

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Veteran Private Investigator discusses untruthful clients

Private investigator Joe Tadlock gives an interesting interview to the Roseville Press-Tribune about the problems that private investigators face when dealing with clients that lie or sometimes worse, intentionally leave out important facts that they know we would want to be aware of before we take an assignment. Mr. Tadlock demonstrates how a trained detective can recognize signs of deception, even on thew part of our prospective clients. If you are thinking about hiring a private investigator, please keep this in mind and review the complete story here.

Holidays and Affairs

Holidays and Affairs

holidays and affairsFor those of you looking to catch a cheating spouse before the holidays, please understand that with everyone’s schedule being messed up, cheaters more often than not will try and find the last possible opportunity to be together and take advantage of it. Lets face it, they will be apart for at least several days and they get emotional. This presents a great opportunity for you to catch them. We recommend that you consider the few days before Christmas for surveillance. People leave work early, they have errands to run, etc and they use that flexibility to cheat on you. Something to keep in mind.

 

How Christmas Gifts Can Expose a Cheating Husband

We found antoher good article that we think will be of interest to readers at this time of the year. To read the full article click here. Below is an excerpt:

Cheating husbands can be exposed by the Christmas gifts they give or receive,” says author and infidelity expert, Ruth Houston. “The wife who knows what to look for and where to look can find tangible evidence of her husband’s affair.”

(PRWEB) December 13, 2004 — If you have a sneaky suspicion your husband is having an affair, Christmas is the ideal time to confirm what you suspect. “A cheating husband can be exposed by the Christmas gifts he gives or receives:,” says Ruth Houston, infidelity expert and author of “Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs” (Lifestyle Publications, ISBN 0972055347). A wife who knows what to look for and where to look can usually find tangible evidence of her husband’s affair.”

Cheating is nothing new for infidelity expert Nichols

Adultery in Hollywood

By Stephen Hunter
The Washington Post

WASHINGTON — Hurts so bad.

You know: When your Other decides to play around, with a younger body, or a more appropriate wit, or a professional pleasure franchisee or any of the other categories of mischief. And whether they confess or you find out on your own, it’s the same at the end — the world turns all to broken glass and spider webs. Maybe you two kids come back from it, maybe you don’t. But one thing is absolutely certain: Things will never be the same.

An expert on this explosive situation is the American director Mike Nichols. The Oscar winner checked into theaters recently with “Closer,” an examination on the real crying game, full-contact adultery, leaving plenty of bruises, aches, broken egos and raw feelings. “Closer” is, by my count, the eighth of his 17 features whose plot turns on, or at least details, adultery. He started out with Elizabeth Taylor using it to humiliate Richard Burton in “Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf?” In “The Graduate,” for which he won his best director Oscar, Mrs. Robinson had tired of poor old Mr. Robinson, and Dustin Hoffman’s Ben Braddock was the beneficiary. “Carnal Knowledge,” in many ways the direct antecedent of “Closer,” watched four adults shift partners and allegiances over the years, just as in Nichols’ latest film. “Heartburn” and “Regarding Henry” examined adultery (briefly) as a signifier of character weakness in the behavior of two philanderers played by Jack Nicholson and Harrison Ford.

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Claiming DNA proof, socialite wants husband to pay for cheating

By Court TV/CNN reporter Jessica Su
Court TV
Tuesday, December 7, 2004

When a West Palm Beach, Florida, socialite suspected her husband was cheating on her, she sought proof and payback.

During a 1999 visit to her summer home in Woodstock, Vermont, Nanette Sexton Bailey, 60, says she found a lace nightgown, brown hair, a toothbrush and stains on the bedsheets — all of which were not hers.

Bailey, a blonde, kept the blemished sheet and claims a DNA test confirmed that another woman was in her husband’s bed.

She filed for divorce in 2000 and claims she deserves $16,000 a month for life, thanks to a “bad boy” clause in a prenuptial agreement.

Her husband, Richard Bailey, 78, claims he has Alzheimer’s disease and was mentally incompetent when he signed the agreement.

A judge in the Palm Beach County Circuit Court is deciding if the clause is enforceable. If he rules in favor of Nanette Bailey, a second trial will determine whether Richard Bailey cheated on his wife before she receives payment.

The Baileys married in September 1993 in New Hampshire. Richard Bailey, reportedly worth $11 million, was the CEO of Massachusetts Financial Services, America’s oldest mutual fund company.

Nanette Bailey also had an impressive pedigree: The horse enthusiast was a great-niece of sculptor Alexander Calder and held a doctorate in art history.

However, marital troubles lurked beneath the glamour. The marriage was Richard Bailey’s fourth and Nanette’s third.

According to the divorce filing, Richard Bailey committed adultery after January 1999, when he and his wife signed an amended prenuptial contract, which added the “bad boy” clause to their original agreement they signed on their wedding day.

According to the clause, Richard Bailey would financially compensate his wife if he cheated on her, deserted her or physically abused her.

In addition to the DNA test, which marked the first adultery case in history based on genetic evidence, Nanette Bailey hired a private investigator to monitor her husband.

The detective discovered that Richard Bailey met with his third wife, Anita, several times between July and December 1999, according to People magazine.

Although the prenuptial agreement would grant Nanette Bailey millions, her lawyer, Ann Porath, said infidelity, not money, sparked the Baileys’ pending divorce.

“She didn’t want to divorce him,” Porath said. “They didn’t have a five-minute marriage. I think they were very compatible.”

Furthermore, Nanette Bailey doubted that her husband suffered memory loss from Alzheimer’s disease.

“Alzheimer’s is never definitively diagnosed until someone dies and there’s an autopsy,” Porath said.

Richard Bailey’s lawyer, Jeffrey Fisher, claims Nanette Bailey took advantage of her husband’s mental state and tricked him into signing the amended clause.

“She had him sign a prenuptial agreement when she knew he was mentally incompetent,” Fisher said. “It’s sad and it’s abusive. Money motivates a lot of people.”

“He was taken by his wife to a neurologist in February 1997 with profound memory loss,” Fisher said. “Alzheimer’s is a degenerative disease. If it was bad enough in 1997 that she took him to see a neurologist, imagine how bad it is now.”

“This was a setup that was carefully constructed and manufactured by Ms. Bailey,” Fisher said. “She didn’t let him send the amended agreement to his lawyer. She made him sign it in front of a notary who was a friend of hers.”

Though law requires two witnesses during the signing, none were present, Fisher claims.

“The space for other witnesses to sign was whited out,” he said.

In addition, the DNA evidence that Nanette Bailey was banking on never existed, according to Fisher.

“They claim that they found some sheets that were sent to a lab. The test was never done. The lab doesn’t exist anymore,” Fisher said. “If there’s a DNA report, it doesn’t identify whose DNA was on it. It could be a housekeeper. It could be a pet.”

Furthermore, Richard Bailey did not offer an explanation for his alleged affair because of his mental state, according to Fisher.

“He can’t admit or deny anything. It’s like asking your 88-year-old grandmother what she ate for lunch three days ago,” Fisher said. “He could tell you that he’s just watched ‘Star Trek,’ and it hasn’t been on for 20 years.”

The trial is expected to last three days.

This article can be found at the CNN / Court TV web site

When they have been drinking

We had another example of what great opportunity the work holiday party can be for investigative a cheating spouse. Our client called and reported that her spouse was at his work party and had been drinking alot. He called to say that he would not be home for several hours and we were able to acquire him in a banquet room at a local restaurant. The private investigator identified him and watched as he flirted with a co-worker. He departed a short time after this female co-worker and was followed outside where he walked to his car and drove back to his office. He arrived and parked next to this female co-worker and they opened up the office and went inside. We were able to film them making out in the lobby as they waited for the elevator. They left approximately three hours later and we got more film of them hugging, kissing and feeling each other up next to her car. This story is a textbook example of how the company holiday party can be an excellent opportunity to watch a cheating spouse.

Genetic Causes Of Infidelity Found In Twins Study

This is excerpt from an intersting blog article about infidelity we located at Future Pundits

A comparison of the sexual histories of 1600 identical and non-identical twins found that genetic variations play a large role in influencing the tendency to infidelity among women.

“We found that around 40 percent of the influence on the number of sexual partners and infidelity were due to genetic factors,” Professor Tim Spector, director of the Twin Research Unit at St Thomas’ Hospital in London, told a news conference.

Identical twins whose twin has strayed have twice the normal chance of straying.

The findings mean that someone with a philandering twin is far more likely to philander themselves. The average risk of female infidelity is about 22%, says Spector, but those with an unfaithful identical twin have a risk of 44%.

Women tend to stray to hook up with higher status men.

The study, which was published in the journal Twin Research, suggests that a genetic predisposition towards female infidelity may have evolved because it was important in allowing women married to “low status” men surreptitiously to become pregnant by “high status” men.

“If female infidelity and number of sexual partners are under considerable genetic influence, as this study demonstrates, the logical conclusion is that these behaviours persist because they have been evolutionary advantageous for women,” the researchers write in their scientific paper.

Female straying for higher status males offers a selective advantage that could have been selected for.

From an evolutionary perspective, a woman’s best short-term strategy would be to clandestinely pursue men with better genes.

Prof Spector points out that women tend to have affairs with men of higher status than their husbands. However, the system would break down, he said, if “everyone was unfaithful, because there would be no pair-bonding”.

Three chromosomes were identified in this study as likely locations for genes that influence the odds of monogamy.

It lends strong support to theories advanced by evolutionary psychologists such as Steven Pinker, of Harvard University, who argue that human sexual behaviour is at least partly determined by natural selection and our genes.

Professor Spector’s team did not identify any particular gene that contributes to a tendency to infidelity, though they did pinpoint three regions on chromosomes 3, 7 and 20 that might harbour such genes. He believes that there are between 50 and 100 genes that contribute to a tendency to infidelity.

Getting ready to hire a private investigator to watch your husband or wife

Private Investigators need to know when and where to do the watching to get you what you need. Despite the fact that you don’t know exactly when or where your spouse is cheating, you are in a position to help your private investigator figure out the best possible opportunity to catch them. The easy way to do this is to be patient and keep track of whats going on. Write down what day they came home two hours late and what the excuse was. Keep track of any recurring theme in the excuses or stories that you can. Watch to see if there is someone in particular that they talk about or appear to be thinking about. After a week or two (sometimes more) a pattern will likely emerge and then you can spend you money with the private investigator wisely.