Be your own private investigator
Why do I need someone with a license to catch my cheating spouse? Doing it yourself is something that happens every day. Following your spouse is not illegal and maybe just the ticket to getting the proof you need to move on with your life, but there are risks. First of all, your cheating spouse is likely to be VERY aware of where you are and what you are doing. They take great care to monitor your activity to help reduce the risk that they will be caught (For some detail about the lenghts they will go to, visit our Cautious Cheater page) There is also the obvious fact that you are the spouse and you have none of the training and experience in surveillance that a private investigator does. Not only does your spouse know you and what you drive, and your mom’s car and uncle Bill’s truck, you are likely going to be very excited and nervous doing this yourself. These factors will certainly increase your odds of being caught and then you can forget about knowing the truth. If you going to try and gather some proof for court, that goes out the door too. Your a party and any evidence you gather will be suspect at best.
But what if I get a friend to do it for me? If you are paying the friend, then they are breaking the law and engaging in professional investigaitons without a license. They too lack the training and experience to get the job done correctly. They are also suspect when it comes to gathering evidence because they have a relationship with you. They could be noticed and if detected, potentially placed in harms way. The list goes on. To make this post a bit shorter, when you need to know the truth, invest in professional representation. The money will be well spent and you will get the proof you need to move on with your life.